Some things I wish more girls heard...

Hello friends.

It's 12:25 AM on Thursday and I'm all done with finals for the week. I hope finals for you guys went as swimmingly as it did for me or more. If you still have more to come I wish you all the luck in the world.

Tonight I felt like publishing something a little bit different from my usual content on here. I wanted to really share a few things that have been on my mind. So what's keeping me up tonight? I wanted to share a few things I wish more girls heard nowadays but I wasn't really told often enough growing up. I'm sure these are a few things plenty of us know deep down inside but we just don't hear it as often as we should.

Before I start I'd like to say that I'm still coming of age really to this day (I wonder if all adults are locked in this endless cycle of learning and growth and that's what adulthood really is) and in my childhood and high school years I had plenty of great role models who told me many wonderful things. There have just been a few events recently that I feel like I needed to share with others and a few thoughts that have accompanied that I hope are appreciated.

Lets get started, shall we?

1. You don't need to look like a supermodel to be beautiful.

No matter who says what, no matter what that scale says, no matter what that magazine looks like

you are beautiful.

You should never let anyone, or anything, take that belief away from you.

You should never give anyone the power to take away your peace.

If you only glanced over that first point I want you repeat it to yourself until you believe it. 

2. Wash your face.

Had a rough day? I've found washing your face at the end really helps me :).

Are you upset about something? Like really mad and you can't get your mind off what just happened? Try washing your face to get your mind off it if you're at home.

3. Boys can be dumb. But don't let that drive you away from them.

Dating and love is rough. But you should always give a kind (and perhaps cute) gentleman who means well a chance.

4. Relationships should be based upon respect.

There should always be a foundation of respect. I've never been in a relationship before so feel free to call me out on that fact but I do dare you to say I'm wrong about the respect.

5. Speaking of relationships though... It's okay not to date.

I really wish someone told me this more often. I know we all feel so much pressure to get into a relationship after we take a look on social media. It feels like some people only have social media to mock us single people with their joy (jk) (I'm in pain). But I want you to know that it's okay to take time for yourself and to sort yourself out. To figure out who you are and to give yourself the love you deserve is one of the greatest relationships you'll ever cultivate in your life.

It's okay to be single and learn to appreciate everything that life has given you in this present moment. I could go on and on about how you don't need to date to be happy or how it's okay not to date so I'll just save us both some trouble and move on now...

6. Forgiveness is harder than anger, but it is always more rewarding.

Enough said.

7. Don't be afraid to be yourself.

You're never more beautiful than when you're you.

Completely and totally unchanged.

Just as you are.

8. Get into the growth mindset.

You are growing everyday. It is okay to make mistakes. Learn to forgive yourself so you love others better.

9. Pray more often, meditate more often. It really works wonders for your mental health.

10. Treasure your family and the friends you have already made. Nothing is sweeter than the joy that comes from gratitude and fellowship among some good friends and family.

11. Understand that changes will happen in the future. But the rougher the change is the more beautiful the outcome is.

12. Laugh more.

This tip is directed more towards my middle school years and early high school years when I was taking life way too seriously. I also direct this towards my early senior year when I was recovering from the loss of a very dear friend of mine. I still use this to this day when I feel as though I am about to be dragged down into melancholy.

Life is too short to ignore the great details and intricacies that escape us.

It's too short to be overthinking every little thing.

Life is precious, and words fuel fire, they can fuel your heart.

I hope these words were able to offer some kindling for your heart tonight.